Hey y’all! I’m super excited about today’s post! We’ve reached the second to last post in this series, and as you can judge by the title, we’re going to be learning about the love language of gifts. Alex Miller, one of my longtime best friends, is sharing her heart in this one!
I’ve known Alex for four years (four years??!), and we met while we were both interning at In The Gap. We were even roommates one session, and it’s still among the best things that has ever happened to me. Alex has been there for me with every huge (and tiny) thing in my life ever since the day we met, and I’m so incredibly grateful for her. She’s currently in school working towards a nursing degree, so needless to say, I’m so thankful she was able to spare a little time to write this. I know you guys are going to learn a lot about this love language from her!
Oh – She’s the one that came to visit me in this post, so be sure to check that out to know more about this amazing person. (; To everyone who doesn’t have an Alex, I am deeply sorry.
Grab some coffee, or some Vanilla Comoro black tea because this stuff has been my obsession lately — and let’s jump in!
Hey y’all! Jordan has asked me to talk a little bit about the love language of gifts today, and I’m super honored to be a part of this awesome series that she’s doing! I apologize in advance because I am in no way a writer like Jordan, so just hang with me.
My love language is gifts. I know, I know, who doesn’t love gifts and isn’t this kinda everyone’s love language? Yes, everyone loves gifts but it’s different for a person with this love language, and I’m going to explain that to you here in a bit. I’m also going to give you some tips on how to show someone with this love language some love.
So what’s so special about gifts to certain people? If you have this love language and are like me, you see a deeper meaning in the gift. When someone gives me a gift I think about how they picked the gift, the fact that they were thinking about me, and so on. So basically having this love language means that you overthink. A huge part of the gift is knowing that someone was thinking of you and took the time to get you something that you would like. Story time! So one time a friend gave me a pen because they knew that I’m obsessed with pens and they thought I would like this specific pen. Y’all, I was so excited. Just knowing that they had thought of me and chose to give it to me was a gift in itself. Crazy? Maybe a little.
Okay, here’s some tips on to show some love through gifts.
Don’t overthink choosing a gift:
Overthinking is our job. Whenever you see something that makes you think of this person, get it. It’s seriously that simple. The gift doesn’t always have to be well thought out and extravagant. When a person feels loved through gifts, it’s honestly anything. Seriously. Not hard. Whenever you find yourself stressing over choosing a gift for someone, think of my pen story, and stress no more.
Gifts is not the ONLY way we feel love:
Gifts may be the most dominant way that we feel love, but that doesn’t mean that our other love languages are dead. When someone has this love language, that doesn’t mean that you can get away with just constantly giving gifts and doing nothing else to show love. (Sorry, it’s not that simple.) We still like meaningful conversation, acts of kindness, or even a hug or two.
Don’t forget special occasions:
Birthdays, anniversaries, your dog’s birthday. All of these things are super important to someone with this love language, yes, even that last one. *guilty* We take these special days very seriously and most of the time we expect our loved ones to do the same. Make sure that you’re enthusiastic in celebrating even the small things, because, believe me, we’ll notice if you don’t.
Expect to be given gifts:
We know our own love language very well and we tend to show love to others using our own love language. You should always try to figure out other people’s love language so that you are loving others in the best way, but that’s not always how it happens. Our first instinct is to give love in the way we like to receive it. So for me, I love giving gifts, and I constantly have to remind myself that not everyone feels the most loved through gifts like I do. When you are given a gift by someone with this love language, try to see the gift the way they do, and express gratitude. They most likely spent a lot of time finding a gift that has a deeper meaning to your relationship so show them that you appreciate the time and effort that they spent on the gift.
Well, that’s about all I have for you guys. I hope this has been super helpful and that you can better understand the gift-loving people in your life! If there’s one thing that I want you to remember from this pow-wow, it would be to not mistake this love language for materialism. The receiver of gifts feels love through the thoughtfulness and effort behind the gift. Don’t place the person in the “basic” box just because they like gifts, because most of the time, it’s not even really about the gift, it’s about the person that it came from.
Much love to all of you, now go and show love to those gift-lovers!
(edit from Jordan: To all my New Girl watchers out there — You’ve been Millered. Insert all the laughing crying emojis. Alex has the perfect last name but rarely takes advantage of it, so I’m being a pal. You’re welcome.)